Grace-Filled Grit

𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐚𝐝 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐝. 𝐍𝐨𝐰 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭? 
Growing up with early trauma and not always having a stable place to live - a lot of %@&$ happened.

And while every book says adversity builds resilience, that doesn’t make today’s hard moments feel any easier.

In her book “Grit”, Angela Duckworth makes an important distinction: “It’s not adversity alone, but 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐝 to it that shapes grit.”

She breaks it down further:
✨ Grit grows with support - from mentors, family, community.
✨ It takes 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘣𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦 - not just enduring pain, but building toward something.
✨ And it’s powered by passion and perseverance - the long game.

Here’s my take on 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐠𝐫𝐢𝐭 when things go sideways:
➡️ A bad decision doesn’t define you. It’s a chapter, not the whole book.
➡️ You 𝘢𝘳𝘦 gifted. Claim that.
➡️ Your past? Use it as fuel, not as a limitation.

I’ve learned to guide my kids with patience - teaching, nudging, helping them grow. Many parents have probably learned the same.

But are 𝒘𝒆 giving ourselves that 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞?

Can I use that mothering tone on 𝘮𝘦 - with compassion, correction, and maybe a few “oh no you didn’t” moments?

That’s the kind of grit I’m practicing now. And maybe you are too.